Black Desert NPC Dating Guide

A guide to the new NPC Dating System in Black Desert Online.


Getting Started

NPC dating is a new mini game added to Black Desert Online available to select NPCs. The idea is that you give gifts to a NPC (anything that can be sold on the marketplace under 50 million) and then gain amity with them until you reach 1000 amity with them. Once you reach that threshold,. you can confess your love to them. However, whether or not you will get accepted depends on your amity with that NPC vs the amity of other players with the same NPC. The higher your amity is, the better chance of your proposal being accepted. You will find out after the maintenance and the “love” lasts only a week unless you maintain the highest amity again next week.

  • Generally the more expensive the item, the more amity you will get
  • Each NPC also have a selection of 5 favourite items. These favourite items will boost their amity by quite a bit. For the same item with two different NPCs, I went from 66 to 69 amity with one NPC but 46 to 88 with a NPC that has the item has their favourite.


The only benefit of the whole dating system is the weekly and permanent titles you can get.

Dateable NPCs

Here are the NPCs you can date sorted by city with their favourite items listed. You can date NPCs of the same gender.


Name Job/Location Favourites
bdo-npc-dating-guide-7 Bahar Trade Manager of Velia
  • Whale Tendon Potion
  • Small Leather Elephant Armor
  • Red Sheep Hide Cushion
  • Manshaum Voodoo Doll
  • Muskan’s Bloody Steel Helmet
bdo-npc-dating-guide-5 Crio Fish Vendor of Velia
  • King Clam Wall Ornament
  • Dried Swiri
  • Haystack
  • Organic Feed
  • Fisher’s Elixir
bdo-npc-dating-guide-2 Eileen General Goods Vendor of Velia
  • Essence of Magic Power
  • Essence of Enchantment
  • Serendia Traditional Alchemy Tool
  • Magic Crystal – Crimson Flame
  • Oil of the Abyss
bdo-npc-dating-guide-9 Santo Manzi Work Supervisor of Velia
  • Cold Draft Beer
  • Supreme Tough Hide
  • Full-bodied Exotic Herbal Wine
  • Elixir of Will
  • Giant Fish Bone


Name Job/Location Favourites
bdo-npc-dating-guide-10 Grace Lauren Valley Lily Inn Owner of Heidel
  • Bloody Ruby
  • Bheg’s Shining Helmet
  • Ancient Relic Shard
  • Whale Tendon Elixir
  • Blue Whale Oil
bdo-npc-dating-guide-13 Isobelle Encarotia Calpheon-Xian Alliance of Heidel
  • Star Diamond
  • Gold Topaz
  • Ocean Sapphire
  • Forest Emerald
  • Oil of Regeneration
bdo-npc-dating-guide-15 Ornella Arms Dealer of Heidel
  • Cooking Honey
  • Rocaba Armor
  • Diamond Necklace of Fortune
  • Destruction Spirit Stone
  • Origin of Wind


Name Job/Location Favourites
bdo-npc-dating-guide-18 Annolisa Rosie Calpheon College Librarian of Calpheon City
  • Silk
  • Silk Thread
  • Flax Fabric
  • Wool
  • Supreme Lightweight Plume
bdo-npc-dating-guide-19 Brego Williar Delphe Knights Captain of Delphe Knights Castle         bdo-npc-dating-guide-16
  • Pure Titanium Crystal
  • Grade 1 Weapon Reform Stone
  • Grade 1 Armor Reform Stone
  • Elixir of Sharp Resistance
  • Elixir of Strong Life
bdo-npc-dating-guide-21 Dominic Erne Kalis Councilor (Erne Family) of Calpheon Citybdo-npc-dating-guide-20
  • Glorious Golden Hand Elixir
  • Luscious Fruit Wine
  • Pure Vanadium Crystal
  • Pure Gold Crystal
  • Forbidden Book
bdo-npc-dating-guide-22 Elina Leight Kalis Councilor (Leight Family) of Calpheon Citybdo-npc-dating-guide-20
  • Skilled Worker’s Elixir
  • Fishing Boat Cargo Container of Abundance
  • Fishing Boat Prow of Abundance
  • Fishing Boat Decoration of Abundance
  • Part for Explorer’s Compass
bdo-npc-dating-guide-25 Leona Elionian Priest of Calpheon City
  • Fruit of Nature
  • Essence of Nature
  • Tea with Fine Scent
  • Violet Flower
  • Plate of Assorted Fruits
bdo-npc-dating-guide-23 Valks Trina Knights Master of Calpheon City
  • Magic Crystal of Infinity – Armor
  • Magic Crystal of Infinity – Vigor
  • Magic Crystal of Infinity – Patience
  • Magic Crystal of Infinity – Heal
  • Magic Crystal of Infinity – Resonance


Name Job/Location Favourites
bdo-npc-dating-guide-27 Luwensleyc Weapon Management of Longleaf Tree Sentry Post
  • Scroll Written in Ancient Language
  • Elixir of Clear Mentality
  • Surging Energy Elixir
  • Life Spirit Stone
  • Essence of Protection
bdo-npc-dating-guide-29 Richter Trade Manager of Trent
  • Trade Wagon Wheel
  • Trade Wagon Cover
  • Trade Wagon Flag
  • Trade Wagon Badge
  • Shining Steel Lumbering Axe

Love Confession

Each gift you give to a NPC will consume 5 energy. When amity of the NPC reaches 1,000, the option to “Confess” your feelings will become available.

After you confess, the NPC will need some time to think. You will receive an answer via an in-game mail (B) after the next maintenance.If the NPC accepts your confession, you will become their lover and earn a special in-game title with a distinct color. However, your Amity with them will decrease by 10%. If you are rejected, you will get nothing back and Amity will decrease by 5%.

Whether you succeed or not is calculated based on the ratio “How much Amity you have with that NPC”/”The total Amity of all the adventurers who confessed to that NPC the same week.” The higher your Amity is with the NPC, the better your chances.

If accepted, your relationship and temporary title only lasts for a week and the NPC may choose another player once the week is over if their amity is higher. You can maintain the relationship by having the highest amity relative to other players for that week.

Keep in mind that you cannot confess to a new NPC while you are in still in a relationship.


In addition to the weekly temporary titles you can get when you win a NPC’s love, there are other permanent titles you can get.

If you succeed in winning 5 NPCs over to accept your confession, you will earn the special in-game title “Philanderer.” If you succeed in winning 10 NPCs over to accept your confession, you will earn the special in-game title “Casanova.

By Dulfy

MMO guide writer and blogger. Currently playing and covering SWTOR, GW2, and TSW.

8 replies on “Black Desert NPC Dating Guide”

I’m curious if there are gender restrictions on the npc interactions. If not, I’m actually surprised they added this in game.

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